As time passes by and my belly is growing at record speeds, I am getting a lot of questions about how it will be to "say good-bye" after they are born. I thought I would share my thoughts about this as it has been on my heart since I made the decision to be a surrogate.
Prior to moving forward with this journey, the very most important thing to my husband and I was that our kids had a clear understanding of what it meant to be a surrogate. After telling them that Mommy wanted to help a family have a baby who was unable to have one on their own, I knew we could have two different reactions. They were very supportive and excited. Of course they had lots of questions and our kids are now very knowledgable as to how babies are made. They were part of this process from the very first interview with our agency.
If at any point they showed us that they did not feel comfortable, or asked why we would give their brother or sister away, I would not have continued with this journey. In fact their first question after telling them was "Why can't you and daddy have another baby?" That showed us that they understood the difference between this being our families baby and the baby of the family we were going to be helping.
I spent many years thinking about being a surrogate. It was not until I knew that our family was complete that I was able to move forward with this journey. That made the difference for my heart to be able to open up to help a family from start to finish. With that said, my initial thought of how his journey would go is so far from where we are at now. I never dreamed we would be matched with a family that we would fall completely in love with and that there would be a forever bond between all of us. I have no doubt that it will be sad when they go back home to Israel; but It will not be good-bye, it will be See you later!
